MBTI with strong self-healing ability

Based on the statistical data of 37 domestic MBTI certified testers with a total of 120,000+ consultation cases, as well as the cross-validation of two different assessment systems, Jungian psychoanalysis school and mass social platform, the MBTI types with self-healing ability in the first echelon are concentrated in ISTP, INFP, and ENFJ. Of course, this conclusion itself is controversial. Another group of counselors who do clinical intervention for personality disorders will insist on including ESTJ in the first echelon, and even believe that their healing efficiency is higher than the first three.

To be honest, I was stunned when I saw the statistical results for the first time. After all, these types of people are incompatible with each other in the stereotypes: ISTP is a famous craftsman who "doesn't touch me", INFP is a glass heart that breaks when touched, ENFJ is a "good old guy" who hangs around others every day, and ESTJ is an unreasonable workaholic. No matter how you look at it, it can't be related to "self-healing". Until a while ago, I met an ISTP girl who was doing career planning. She was cheated on by her boyfriend of three years last week. I had prepared a bunch of sympathetic opening remarks in advance, but the first thing she said when she sat down was, "Sister, please don't comfort me. Yesterday, I packaged and sold all the things he gave me for 2,300 yuan. I signed up for a rock climbing class that I was reluctant to give up before. Now I'm here to ask what skills I need to improve when I switch to a product manager."

Can you believe it? She even took out her mobile phone and introduced me to the instructor of her rock climbing class, her tone as calm as if she was talking about what she had for lunch today. This is the typical healing logic of ISTP: with the blessing of high Ti (introverted thinking) + Se (extraverted feeling), they will not regard emotions as a burden that needs to be "digested", but will only regard them as problems that need to be solved. If they are sad, they will play string strings, ride a motorcycle, or dismantle an old home appliance. The moment they start moving, their emotions have been completely consumed. Of course, there are some schools of thought that think this is not “healing”, but just emotional suppression, but tracking data shows that 92% of ISTPs will not fall into internal friction repeatedly due to similar incidents. From a results-oriented perspective, it is indeed a ridiculously efficient form of self-repair. If other people's therapy is slow charging, theirs is a fast charging head that can charge to 80% in 20 minutes. The only drawback is that the battery will occasionally jump, but it does not affect daily use at all.

It is completely different from the ISTP, who "treats emotions as problems," the scientific and technical therapy method. Many people think that the delicate and sensitive INFP is actually a master of healing in another dimension. I have an INFP friend who is a freelance writer. She failed to start a business last year and owed hundreds of thousands of dollars. She hid at home for half a month without going out. Her mutual friends were afraid that she would not be able to think about it, so they arranged to go to her house to stay. Half a month later, she came out with a computer and said that she had just finished writing a 120,000-word semi-autobiographical novel, sold the copyright, and had paid off most of the debt. “When I feel sad, I take myself out as an observer. The current pain, gnawing, and crying until my eyes are swollen to walnuts are all material. When I write them all out, this emotion no longer belongs to me and becomes my work. ”

The essence of their high Fi (Introverted Feeling) is their extremely strong ability to integrate inward emotions. It is not that they are not sad, but they are able to chew up negative emotions and knead them into nutrients. Of course, the opposition is also clear: INFP’s repair cycle can take weeks or even months, unlike other types that can jump out in a few days. How can they be considered to have strong healing ability? But as long as they have been exposed to it, they will know that as long as they climb out of the pit, they will basically not stumble over the same obstacle again, and their resistance to frustration will increase several times, just like bone soup that has been simmered for several hours. It is slow, but it is solid and has great stamina. Oh yes, there are exceptions. INFPs who are born into the Fi-Si cycle are more likely to get into trouble than other types. Types are just probabilities, never final conclusions.

As for ENFJ, many people have a deeper misunderstanding of them: they are busy taking care of other people’s emotions every day, so how can they have time to heal themselves? During the last team building, I personally saw our ENFJ department leader, who had just been scolded by the headquarters for half an hour, but he turned around and distributed milk tea to everyone with a smile, and helped the newly hired children change their plans until the early morning. I later asked her privately, "Don't you feel aggrieved?" She took a bite of the pearls in the milk tea and smiled: "It's a grievance, but when we were sharing the milk tea just now, the children's eyes lit up when they saw the popping taro paste, and the jumping kitten emoticon she sent me after changing the plan. That grievance has long been washed away. ”

Their high Fe (Extroverted Feeling) is naturally good at absorbing energy from positive interpersonal feedback. You may think that they are burning themselves to illuminate others, but in fact they are giving light to others and charging themselves at the same time. It is equivalent to having the property of a shared power bank. When plugging in others, their own power will secretly increase. Of course, the skeptical point of view is also valid: many ENFJ's treatments are "false prosperity". If there is no positive feedback for a long time, it is easy to suddenly collapse across the board. But actual data shows that most ENFJs are born to proactively select social circles that can give them positive feedback, and less than 10% of them actually reach the edge of collapse. Others will pave the way for themselves much better than you.

Finally, let’s talk about the most controversial ESTJ. I worked with an ESTJ who was in the building materials business. The year before last, his company went bankrupt, his wife divorced him, and his house was auctioned off. Everyone thought he was going to collapse. He completed all the procedures for property division and company liquidation within a week, rented a small 10-square-meter room, and went to a similar company to interview as a salesperson the next day. He was promoted to sales director in half a year, and is now preparing to open a new company of his own. I asked him if he ever hid and cried during that time, and he looked at me like I was a fool: "I had time to cry? During that time of tears, I could make three more sales calls and earn an extra 2,000 yuan. When I get back everything I lost, that little thing won't matter at all. ”

Those who object to including them in the healing echelon feel that this is not healing at all, but is indifferent to emotions and utilitarian to the point of being heartless. But the view of the other school is also very tenable: the essence of healing is "no longer being affected by past negative events in current judgment and actions." From this definition, ESTJ is simply a well-deserved ceiling. They are like their own solar panels. As long as they have goals and something to do, they will never lose power and suffer from internal emotional exhaustion? If it doesn’t exist, it will delay making money.

To put it bluntly, in fact, there is no standard answer when it comes to the healing ability of MBTI. I have seen ISTPs who are stuck in internal friction every day, and I have also seen ENFJs who get into trouble when they encounter problems. Personality type only gives you a natural behavioral tendency. The real healing ability is all developed through every pit you fall into. Oh, yes, I came across a netizen’s comment before which is more interesting: Which MBTI has the strongest healing power? It’s an MBTI with no money. I’m so poor that I don’t even have time to feel sad. I have to rush to clock in during the morning rush hour the next day. Any negative emotions can be squeezed out by the crowds in the subway. Although it’s a joke, it actually makes sense.