Workplace mental health counselor

If you are currently suffering from internal conflict, anxiety, and self-doubt in the workplace, the core role of finding a workplace mental health counselor is to help you unbundle "work" and "self-worth." You do not need to exhaust yourself to please others, nor do you need to equate frustration at work with the failure of the entire person - it is not chicken soup, nor is it a workplace cheat, nor is it a "tool for boss PUA employees" as some people say. It is essentially to help you rebuild your own psychological order in the workplace.

I just received a visitor last week. She graduated from 985 and worked in user operations for three years. Recently, the team was downsized. She shouldered the work of two people by herself and did not get off work before 12 o'clock for two consecutive months. When reporting data during the weekly meeting last week, the leader just frowned and asked, "Why is this retention rate down by 2 points compared to last week?" She couldn't control her tears on the spot, and the entire conference room was silent. Afterwards, she wanted to find a crack in the ground and crawl into it. She stayed at home for three days and did not dare to go to work. All she could think about was, "I am too fragile. I can't even bear this pressure. I will definitely be fired."

Faced with the same situation, counselors with different orientations have completely different handling logics: If she is looking for a counselor from the cognitive behavioral school (CBT), there is a high probability that she will help her dismantle the unreasonable beliefs first - does the leader's frown mean that he is dissatisfied with me? Does my crying in public mean that I am incompetent? Take off the shackles she unconsciously tied to herself one by one. ； A psychodynamic counselor might accompany her to dig deeper: Was it because your parents had very high demands on you when you were a child, and you would be criticized if you didn't do well, so you would regard a little bit of negative feedback from others as a big deal? If your company is connected to an EAP (Employee Assistance Program) consultant, they may be more inclined to solve problems quickly and quickly. They may even directly teach you how to communicate your workload with your boss and how to report your work to avoid mistakes. Each one has its own emphasis. There is no absolute advantage or disadvantage. It just depends on your current needs.

Oh, yes, when it comes to EAP, many people complain that workplace psychological counseling is to help the boss maintain stability. I have to be fair: this situation really exists. In the past two years, I took over the EAP outsourcing of a company. After doing it twice, I found that HR would ask me sideways, "Does the salesperson who came for consultation last week have a tendency to leave?" 」I immediately terminated the cooperation. The bottom line in this industry is confidentiality. If you can't even do this, what's the difference between you and the boss's spy? So if your company provides you with free EAP consultation, don’t rush in. Ask two questions first: First, will the consultation content be synchronized to HR or your superior? Second, are consultants independent from the company system? If the answer is no, I advise you not to go. If you complain, it will reach the ears of the leader, and you won’t even have time to cry.

I have been in this business for almost 7 years, and I never make decisions about visitors. For example, someone asks me, "Should I resign?" 」「Should I break up with the leader? 」I would never say "You should resign" or "You should bear with it any longer". I would only accompany him to reveal all the pros and cons, and the true thoughts that he did not dare to say in his heart. There used to be a young man who was doing back-end development. He was PUAed by his boss every day, saying that the code he wrote was rubbish, and that he was worse than a junior college student after graduating in 985. He went home every day and slapped himself in the face, feeling that he was worthless. When we talked for the fourth time, he suddenly slapped his thigh: "Oh, no, last year I was selected as an outstanding employee in the department. There has never been a major accident when the code I wrote went online. He called me rubbish. Did he just want to force me to resign and save compensation?" 」You see, he already had the answer himself, but he was blinded by internal friction. I just helped him wipe away the dust.

In fact, doing workplace psychological counseling is especially like clearing the background of your mobile phone: you usually open a bunch of apps, including WeChat, DingTalk, games, and videos, which fill up the memory and are very stuck. I will not help you delete the apps, nor will I help you change your mobile phone. I will just help you turn off those useless background processes and clear the cache that takes up memory, and you will naturally run smoothly. It can’t help you directly raise your salary, it can’t help you transfer your stupid leader, and it can’t make your career smooth sailing from now on. What it can do is to prevent you from bringing the troubles of work to the dinner table or your dreams after get off work, and from denying your own value just because of a criticism from your leader.

Yesterday, the operations girl mentioned at the beginning sent me a message in Moments, which was a cup of iced milk tea with double milk cap, with the text "I rejected the job offered by the leader today, the sky is not falling, and the wind is very comfortable." I gave her a like. You see, many people can't do such a small thing in the workplace for many years. This is the meaning of our existence. It is not to help you become a winner in the workplace in the secular sense, but to help you become the master of your own emotions.